{"id":1277,"date":"2016-02-14T23:26:53","date_gmt":"2016-02-14T23:26:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.pinkimono.com\/?p=1277"},"modified":"2017-07-21T01:31:36","modified_gmt":"2017-07-21T01:31:36","slug":"overparenting-much-learn-the-power-of-play","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.pinkimono.com\/2016\/02\/14\/overparenting-much-learn-the-power-of-play\/","title":{"rendered":"Overparenting, Much? Learn The Power of Play"},"content":{"rendered":"

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So I’m a Work At Home Mom. I’m a part-time designer and marketer for a child enrichment center (NEST Chestnut Hill<\/a>). It\u2019s perfect for me not only because of the work flexibility, but because my son, Westley gets to enjoy the benefits of the play space and classes.\u00a0But after working there for several months I\u2019ve realized Westley is not the only one developing and learning. Being around him at work has taught me a thing or two as well. My latest insight came about the power of play – but not for Westley. The learning was for me.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Westley Is King<\/h2>\n

During the holidays\u00a0I had Westley with me at work. I was hosting a pop-up shop for my stationery business. (I\u2019m always hustling.) Once the pop-up ended, I decided to give him some more playtime. He seemed to be enjoying himself. He was playing \u201cKing of the Play Space Bridge.\u201d Pretty much he climbs up on the \u201cbridge\u201d and just walks back and forth like he\u2019s large and in charge. He seemed totally content when suddenly another kid decided he would \u201cfee-fi-fo-fum\u201d his way onto the of the bridge, sit in the middle of it and lay down, totally ending Westley\u2019s \u201creign.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Mama Has A Royal Fit<\/h2>\n

That\u2019s when it happened. Not a kid fight. Not a hissy fit. No tears. No, the kids were fine. It was me who freaked out. My inner overparenting\u00a0mom jumped out and took over. I unlocked the play space door, quickly jumped over to where the coveted bridge was and started to TELL Westley what to do. \u201cWestley, play nice. Be nice. Say hello and share the space.\u201d Both Westley and his little friend looked at me incredulously. It\u2019s one thing when your own child looks at you like you\u2019re crazy, but when two of them do it and the second one is a stranger, you feel kind of foolish. And I did. It took me a minute, but it occurred to me, that I was the one who needed to \u201cplay nice.\u201d I needed to \u201cSay \u2018hello\u2019\u201d to the little boy. Westley hadn\u2019t done anything but observe the situation. He didn\u2019t freak out that the kid was in his way. He didn\u2019t lose it. He just observed and took it in. And when I interrupted a key learning moment, it was me that seemed like the overbearing ogre stopping the fun on the bridge, not the little boy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Thankfully, I quickly took a step back and realized I looked foolish. And when I did, the most amazing thing happened. Westley turned his attention back to the bridge, saw the little boy in the way and did the most sensible thing he could do. He walked OVER the boy and kept it moving. He continued his \u201creign\u201d over his bridge, but just stepped over the boy. And after a while, the other little boy sat up and just watched Westley. Eventually, they actually played together. And that was it. No catastrophe. No forced play. No tears. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lesson Learned – The Power of Play<\/h2>\n

I take that back. That\u2019s not all that happened. I recognized the teachable moment – for me. I needed to LET my son LEARN how to play, not to TEACH him. He\u2019s a kid, but that doesn\u2019t mean he can\u2019t figure things out on his own. After all, kids are just mini-people. They need to learn how to deal with social situations the same as an adult. And as adults, someone isn\u2019t there to jump in and guide us when we\u2019re in a new environment. For instance, when I moved to South Korea a few years ago, I didn\u2019t have someone take me by the hand and say \u201cHere\u2019s how to make friends with the people of Korea.\u201d I mean I watched some basic videos on how to adjust to life as an expat, but otherwise, I figured it out on my own. Kids will do the same and be fine. I realized there is a time to jump in and regulate, but that wasn\u2019t the time. I didn\u2019t even let Westley have a chance to play – to try out his social skills, to make a friend.<\/span><\/p>\n

Since then\u00a0I’ve let Westley just BE. If he looks like he’s going to play too rough, I hover, but only interfere if he actually plays rough. And guess what, he’s fine.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Just like last week, he played with new kids and figured out how to do it, on his own. A few times I still jumped in too early, but it\u2019s a learning process, for both of us. The power of play is amazing for kids, they clearly learn how to interact and socialize. But the power of play can be even more amazing and insightful as the adult if you take a step back and let the moment hit you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Overparenting…How Do You Deal With It?<\/h2>\n

So keep it real with me moms.\u00a0What do you do to overcome the challenges of overparenting? This first-time mom, needs to know and would love to share your tips! Post below in the comments with your suggestions.<\/p>\n

This post was originally written for WithloveMommy.com.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So I’m a Work At Home Mom. I’m a part-time designer and marketer for a child enrichment center (NEST Chestnut Hill). It\u2019s perfect for me not only because of the work flexibility, but because my son, Westley gets to enjoy the benefits of the play space and classes.\u00a0But after working there for several months I\u2019ve realized Westley is not the only one developing and learning.<\/p>\n

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